37 Truly Mind-Blowing Lesbian Sex Positions
Plus expert tips to maximize your pleasure, obvi.
Of the many advantages of Sapphic Love—familiarity with the equipment, better post-sex wet spot situation and a lower chance of being subjected to earnest jackhammering—one of the best is that it's not subjected to the same old hetero-normative ideas of what you're “supposed” to be doing. Sometimes the mere fact of not being a normie can be a turn-on.
“The thing I enjoy most is being able to bask in the vulnerability that comes with queer sex, especially with other fat, Black femmes such as myself. I feel like unpacking my own queerphobia has really contributed to this experience and has allowed me to open up and truly enjoy the experience with partners that are inherently pleasure-centric because of our shared plight,” says writer Cheyenne Davis.
To get yourself to that pleasure-centric space, try these ideas:
-Mind the foreplay: “Upgrade your foreplay!” says Chelsea Downs, co-founder of sex positive toy and gear company New York Toy Collective. “Use pressure point massage during your foreplay. Use what you know/like or, if you have a few minutes, Google 'pressure points.' Rubbing the scalp, bottoms of feet and calves can completely change the experience."
-Play with temperature: “Temperatures, including ice and a wet washcloth, can be a pleasant surprise,” says Downs. “Turn on some instrumental music and blindfold your partner so they can focus on the sensations.”
-Use pillows: “Use what you've got! Make use of your bedroom pillows. Using pillows to lift and support core muscles makes a more comfortable experience. When on your back, put them under the waist and butt. When on your belly, place pillows under your core for additional support,” says Downs.
-Just ask: “The best sex position is communication,” says musician Abby Diamond. “Seriously, a lot of this stuff is a conversation with your partner, feeling safe to ask for what you want, and then trial (and sometimes hilarious) error.”
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The Slider
Have your partner sit on your lap but instead of doing anything fancy, just lube up your fingers, make a V shape with your first and middle fingers and slide them along either side of their clitoris and over their vulva. Use long, slow, consistent strokes for a slow build to huge orgasm.
The Made To Order
Sit your girl's ass on the kitchen counter and you'll be in the right spot to provide whatever she wants—some slippery fingering, oral and/or focused treatment with a really good toy. Feels even hotter if she puts her feet on your shoulders or wraps her legs around you.
The Bumper Cars
A strap-on doesn't only have to be used for P-in-V, it's also lovely for anal. Try a spooning position for gentle entry with the little spoon using a rabbit-style vibrator for amazing triple stimulation. Choosing a strap-on harness that holds a bullet vibe for the wearer ensures that's everyone is happy, real happy.
The Daily Grind
If you both love the kind of orgasm that come from grinding against something, create a win-win situation with a mutual hand grind. Lie face down side-by-side. Fill your hand with lube and cup it under your girl's vulva, while she does the same for you. As you get more turned on thrusting against their hand, you can feel their body responding to your hand and, well, it's pretty effing heady. Turn your heads to gaze at each other to make it even more intimate.
Come As You Are
Take opposite ends of the couch, lean back on the arms and masturbate with each other for a surprisingly intimate experience. There are few things hotter than watching someone lose it for/with you and they'll love seeing you do the same as well. It's part performative, part voyeuristic, plus you get to touch yourself exactly as you please (which can double as a teachable moment).
Double Trouble
Go off-label and combine two toys to design your own super intense sensations. Have your partner lie back comfortably so she can use a clit suction-type toy on herself (sometimes clit toys are the kind of things you want to control your own damn self.) As she gets more turned on, use a dildo or internal vibe inside her vagina. If you are feeling a little cruel Mistress, go ahead and make her beg for it.
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The Lean In
Have your partner lie on their back. Go down on them, paying extra attention to their clitoris with your mouth, while you also penetrate them with two fingers, or three if you really want to Lean In. You really can have it all.
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The Laconic Lounger
Have your partner lie on their back with two pillows under their upper back. Kneel between their legs and draw slow circles around their clitoris with one hand. Use your free hand to massage their breasts, or just have a hot makeout sesh. What's not to like?
“When having sex with other vulva owners, what I enjoy most is my partner laying on their back with their legs spread apart, which allows me to pleasure them in multiple areas of their body,” says Davis. “This position can also be amplified with the person laying down being blindfolded while the person sitting uses toys such as ice, candle wax, and feathers for sensation play.”
The All Hands Meeting
Have your partner get on all fours. Finger their butthole (very slowly, and with lube!) with your thumb while fingering their vagina with your index finger. “Pinch” your two fingers together from opposite directions inside of them to create an incredible feeling for them via internal stimulation. Then, with your free hand, play with their nipples or lips. When I said all hands, I meant all hands.
The Olympic Gymnast
Lie on your back with your legs in the air. Have your partner face you and lean into your legs, pushing them behind your ears, while you rub your pelvic bones together. This allows for more direct contact between you two, without those pesky legs getting in the way. Pro-tip: It really helps if you’re flexible!
The Breast Enhancement
Kneel facing your sitting partner and lean in until your nipples are touching. Then rub their clit, either with your hand or with a vibrator, stopping occasionally to kiss their breasts and nipples. Good vibes all around.
The Rocket
You know the Beyoncé song that starts, "Let me sit this aaaaass on you"? That's what you're going for here. Kneel over their shoulders and let your butt brush against their nipples while their tongue gets intimate with your clitoris. You'll be crazy in love with this position.
The Double Duty
Have your partner get on all fours with their pelvis tilted up. Kneel over their calves, rubbing your clitoris against their leg. Start by licking their clitoris and vulva, but if they're up for it, move on to anilingus. The contrast will blow their mind.
The Kinky Jockey
Have your partner get on all fours, then straddle their hips. Tug on their hair while you rub your clitoris against their tailbone. Getting a little Fifty Shades of Grey is always hot.
Defying Gravity
If you're really feeling ambitious, have your partner sit in a chair (or on the couch). Facing away from them, kneel, straddling them. Bend over so your hips are in the air and touch your hands to the ground for support. Now they have all-access for oral sex, and you're about to get one hell of a head rush.
The Lazy Girl's 69
Lie on your sides facing each other's crotches. Go down on each other — just like a 69, but on your sides. You can even rest your head on their inner thigh if you get tired. Simultaneously getting each other off without the neck strain? Yes, please!
If a marathon cunnilingus session is gonna be going on, sex furniture, like positioning pillows, can be helpful for people of any gender mix and orientation, says Queen. “When you are between someone's legs, it really helps if you can hold your neck in a straight position, not bent. A wedge can fit under the chest (or as a ramp to her thigh, if you are coming in from the side), and add to comfort and stamina.”
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The Lovely Lap Dance
Sit on a slightly-reclined chair with one knee bent up and your foot resting on the edge of the chair. Have your partner straddle your raised leg and grind their clitoris against your thigh. Just lean back and enjoy the ride.
Back That Ass Up
Have you partner get on all fours and kneel right behind them, grinding your hips against their butt. Reach around and finger their clitoris with one hand (the other is free to help out, engage in some nipple play, or tug on their ponytail–mix n' match as you see fit).
Pegger's Choice
Kneel right behind your partner, give them a pillow to cushion their head and bend them over so their hips are in the air. If they prefer manual stimulation, you can take that route and use your fingers or tongue. Or, you can gear up with a strap-on and penetrate them doggy style.
The Tawdry Tire-Swing
Sit on your partner's lap with your back to them. From here, they can finger you and you can finger them, all while you swing your hips back and forth along their pelvis. You can also throw a vibrator into the mix!
Jill Hamilton is a contributor for Cosmopolitan.com and writes the blog In Bed With Married Women.
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