Teabagging always seems like more of a high school locker room joke than a sex act people actually do — but is it? In this week's Sex Talk Realness, Cosmopolitan.com spoke with three anonymous women about why they love putting balls in their mouths, which sounds simple, but according to them, definitely involves a certain artistry. 

How old are you? 

Woman A: 28. 

Woman B: 27. 

Woman C: 37. 

How did you learn what teabagging was? How old were you?

Woman A: I definitely sucked on some balls in high school, but it wasn't until I heard Samantha from Sex and the City call it "teabagging" that I knew there was a word for it.  

Woman B: I heard someone talk about it as joke when I was probably 12 or 13. I always thought it was something guys did to each other. 

Woman C: I learned about teabagging in high school when a very nice college football player gave a sex education class to some of the cheerleaders at a party. 

What's your relationship status? 

Woman A: I have a boyfriend. 

Woman B: I have been in a monogamous relationship for two months, after a long period of promiscuity.

Woman C: I've been in an open relationship for four years.

How often do you teabag?

Woman A: At the moment, I don't teabag at all, because my current bae says he's too ticklish. In my last relationship, I teabagged at least once a week. 

Woman B: I have only done it twice with my current partner. I definitely don't ignore his balls, but I don't teabag often. 

Woman C: I believe the balls are a part of the total package, so I include them with any blow job.

Do you enjoy it, or do you do it more for his enjoyment?

Woman A: I wouldn't say that having balls in your mouth is "enjoyable," but I do it for his enjoyment and because I enjoy feeling like a sex goddess. 

Woman B: I enjoy it on a psychological level. Obviously, I don't derive any direct stimulation from it, but I definitely get wet whenever I'm pleasuring someone else. I also enjoy being degraded and teabagging is definitely a bit degrading. Plus, if I'm on my back and the guy is straddling my face while I'm teabagging, I can play with myself at the same time. 

Woman C: I really enjoy giving oral sex in general, so I do it for both of our enjoyment.

Describe what you like about sucking on balls.

Woman A: Hearing the guy say things like "Oh fuck" or "Oh my god" or "I love you" (beware of marriage proposals that occur during teabagging).

Woman B: I like how sensitive balls are. Fellatio alone gets boring, so it's fun to take a break and explore other areas, like the balls and taint. Also, the having your hands free to do other things part is nice. 

Woman C: I like to compare balls to nipples. Some balls are more sensitive, some like them fondled, others couldn't care less either way. It's fun to play with them and see what the guy likes.

Do you have any requirements before you teabag someone? 

Woman A: They must be someone who respects me and who I want to bang. I don't really care how hairy their balls are or anything like that. 

Woman B: I prefer someone who has showered within the past 12 or so hours, but if they haven't showered and I don't notice a smell, then I guess it doesn't matter. Basically, I don't want to put stinky balls in my mouth. 

Woman C: Cleanliness and trimming. 

Do you have a preference for hairy or non-hairy balls?

Woman A: I like them hairy and messy and manly, but a little trimming is fine. I mean, they're balls, so shaving off their hair to try to make them look pretty is sort of like putting lipstick on a pig.

Woman B: If I am licking balls a lot, course hair will hurt my tongue after a while, so it's nice if they trim. If someone isn't naturally very hairy or has soft hair, I don't care at all. If guys like their balls hairless, that's also fine. 

Woman C: If they want them in my mouth, they need to shaved, or at least trimmed.

Have you ever had a guy refuse a teabagging? 

Woman A: My current boyfriend started giggling hysterically the first time I teabagged him because he said his balls were too ticklish, so now I just suck his dick real good. 

Woman B: No one has ever specifically demanded that I avoid their balls, as most guys seem to enjoy that area being stimulated. 

Woman C: I've only met one man that didn't, but he didn't like any type of oral sex. He said he didn't like spit on his dick. 

Are guys usually surprised when you do it? 

Woman A: Yes, I usually notice notes of surprise in their moans. 

Woman B: Most guys seem to expect me to lick their balls. I must have that kind of face or something. 

Woman C: More guys are surprised when I don't do it.

What do you like a guy to do while you teabag him?

Woman A: Lie in on his back, moan, tell me I'm the best. Everyone loves a compliment. 

Woman B: It turns me on a lot when a guy jerks off while his balls are in my mouth. Also, it is nice when they make some noise or show some kind of verbal appreciation. 

Woman C: Enjoy it and tell me what he likes more or less of.

Do you do anything else with your hands? 

Woman A: I usually use my hands to give a hand job while my mouth is engaged in teabagging. 

Woman B: I like to rub the taint with my hands, and I also enjoy giving a prostate massage while teabagging. 

Woman C: I like to do a twist and stroke. Also, the taint is an amazing place to play with, so I like to go down there too.

Do you do anything specific with your mouth?

Woman A: Open wide. 

Woman B: I do one of three things: lick the balls, put one or both balls in my mouth at once and suck on them, and then I also do what I think of as traditional teabagging, where the guy is straddling my face, I'm on my back, and he's putting his balls in my mouth. 

Woman C: Keep my teeth from getting in the way (unless he's into that kind of thing).

Do you do anything specific with your tongue?

Woman A: I'll lick their balls and alternate between a full-mouth suck and a tongue-only lick. 

Woman B: When they are in my mouth, I circle my tongue around them. 

Woman C: My tongue is all over the place.

Describe the best teabagging experience you've ever had.

Woman A: Honestly, the best teabagging experience was probably with my current boyfriend who giggled and asked me to stop because it was so goddamn adorable. 

Woman B: Recently, I was on my back with my head laying off the bed, and my boyfriend standing next to the bed. Before I put his dick down my throat (I really like that angle), I teased him by putting his balls in my mouth and letting him jerk off for a couple of minutes. That was great. 

Woman C: I made a guy come from just sucking on his balls once. That was pretty rad.

Describe the worst.

Woman A: The worst teabagging experience was with an OkCupid guy, only because he turned out to be a creepy jerk who had another girlfriend in another part of town. 

Woman B: The BDSM guy I was seeing would choke me with his dick and balls and we didn't have a safety word. 

Woman C: One time I was with a guy who didn't shave. I was pulling pubes out of my teeth for hours.

Is gagging ever an issue? Or are there any other hazards you've learned how to avoid?

Woman A: No gagging issues, but ball hair can get stuck in your teeth, so just do a quick check with your hands before you look up at your boyfriend with a beaming grin. 

Woman B: Gagging is such an issue! Communication is key with teabagging. I don't think people should engage in anything that could be considered "degrading" or painful or dangerous unless they have a very open and honest relationship. 

Woman C: Nope. It's all about control and practice. 

What do you think is the biggest misconception about teabagging?

Woman A: That all men want it. I have found that men usually have very particular preferences when it comes to their balls. 

Woman B: That it's just a way for bros to bully each other. It's just another erogenous zone and it doesn't have to be rough or degrading. 

Woman C: That it's when a guy drops his balls on someone's head.

What advice would you give to someone who has never teabagged before but wants to try it?

Woman A: Start with some light licks during a blow job and gauge their reaction. If they are really into it, move to full teabag mode. 

Woman B: Just communicate with the person you're teabagging and make sure it's someone you trust. Obviously, safe words are useless in this situation, but safety gestures (slapping them on the leg, for example) are key. 

Woman C: Look at balls as something fun to play with, but also a way to control your man. Want him to come slower, or maybe even faster? It's all in the balls.

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Lane Moore is an award-winning comedian, actor, writer, and musician. She is the creator of the hit comedy show Tinder Live and author of the critically acclaimed book How to Be Alone: If You Want To, and Even If You Don't. Moore is the front person and songwriter in the band It Was Romance, which has been praised everywhere from Pitchfork to Vogue. She has written for The Onion, The New Yorker, and was previously the Sex and Relationships editor at Cosmopolitan.